The Difference between Men & Women in Broken Relationships

Bobbye and I asked a friend of ours to be interviewed on our daily radio show. Her name is Donna Scott and she is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. Today she came to our office for the recordings. Even though we know Donna, her kindness and sensitivity to share in her clients’ pain and then to wisely and calmly provide counsel to those in broken relationships amaze us. God is using her and mightily moving through her to repair broken hearts and mend broken relationships.

On a side bar conversation, I asked her what the biggest difference is between men and women when struggling in their relationship? Her answer may surprise you…

“When people come in to get healing help for relationship wounds, I notice a difference between the types of injuries found in men versus women in their moments of brokenness. As I counsel men, they generally tend to intellectualize their pain through interpreting life events. They typically sense that no matter what they do, it is not ‘good enough.‘ These feelings frequently create a sense of helplessness and futility. Unfortunately, it is usually manifested as anger or indifference to their partner. Women, on the other hand, are likely to experience their emotional hurt as ‘I’m not worth fighting for.’ This hurt results in lowering her sense of worth and security in the relationship. Her pain is sometimes displayed as anger or nagging. Neither understand that they actually have the same need in common; It is the longing to love and be loved by the one who matters most.”

We all want to be loved. We may not be very good at communicating how we want to be loved and we might not be very good at explaining why we are acting out or withdrawing but the bottom answer is the same.. to be loved. “For God so loved…” and because “God first loved us” we can love. I am certainly thankful our relationship with God is based on His love.

Donna Scott’s contact information is http://www.DonnaScottTherapist.com or (619) 500-4653. Calling her may be your first step in learning how to express love and how to receive love from God, others and yourself.

Thank you Donna for sharing your heart with us today and loving others through God’s gift of counseling.

Jesus and His Mother Mary

Yesterday, I spent the morning with the women of Spring Valley at Trinity Presbyterian Church. We focused on Jesus and His first sign in John 2 as He turned the water into wine.

Isn’t it amazing that no matter how many times we read the same stories in the Bible, they speak differently each time we seek God through them? Yesterday, the message was about Jesus being:

  • invited to the wedding,
  • included in the immediate problem at the wedding and Jesus
  • intervened in a specific, tradition-breaking miracle.

His mother Mary was also highlighted:

  • She was with Jesus when she carried Him in her stomach for 9 months.
  • She was with Jesus when she carried Him in her arms and loved Him as He grew.
  • She was with Jesus at this first public sign in turning the water into wine when He said to her, “My hour has not come.”
  • She was with Jesus at the foot of the cross when He told His disciples, “My hour has now come.”

Then at Resurrection Sunday, she was with the other women at the empty tomb and  she was with the disciples when He appeared in the upper room. At Pentecost, she received the anointing as the Gospel message would start right there and then continue to the ends of the earth.

And today,

  •  Jesus is God with us as He has given all believers access to the Father
  •  Jesus is God with Us, Emmanuel
  • Jesus is God with us as He will never leave us nor forsake us.
  • Jesus is God with us as His answers are a prayer away.
  • Jesus is God with us as His Words abide in our hearts and
  • Jesus is God with us as His power has anointed us to share salvation and to serve others.
  • Jesus is God with us as He resides in our hearts.

I am so thankful that Mary was willing to be such a servant, to be used so greatly by God.

Let’s pray that this year we may trust the Lord more than we did last year.

Let’s pray that this year becomes a time of not looking for the dates or hours of when our needs will be met or our prayers will be answered but that we continually seek the face of the Lord.

Let’s pray that we might be found faithful in the small things of life so that we may be granted to do big things for God.

If you would like to join us in Spring Valley, we will be starting Practicing the Presence of God 5 week study on Thursday, January 30 at 10am.

The Carlsbad (North County) Bible Study will be starting this Monday, January 13 at 7pm.

These studies are designed to bring encouragement and comfort for you as we come together in love and unity.

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God is Moving. Are you going with Him?

Today is the day you can change direction and begin a new journey to your own personal victory. Because of the finished work of Jesus Christ and the power of the Holy Spirit, today is the day you can change your life for the better.

One of the exciting things about having a relationship with Christ is that we may journey with Him, which makes life an adventure. The adventure is one of change and focus and being able to soar above the circumstances by keeping our eyes on the eternal.

This morning, my reading was in Ezekiel 1. In this opening chapter, Ezekiel is describing the “invisible” world. He sees a heavenly vision that involves whirlwinds, raging fires, rainbows and odd-looking, living creatures. In chapter 1:6-11, Ezekiel attempts to sketch a visual for us:

Each one had four faces, and each one had four wings.Their legs were straight, and the soles of their feet were like the soles of calves’ feet. They sparkled like the color of burnished bronze. The hands of a man were under their wings on their four sides; and each of the four had faces and wings. Their wings touched one another. The creatures did not turn when they went, but each one went straightforward.

 As for the likeness of their faces, each had the face of a man; each of the four had the face of a lion on the right side, each of the four had the face of an ox on the left side, and each of the four had the face of an eagle. Thus were their faces. Their wings stretched upward; two wings of each one touched one another, and two covered their bodies.And each one went straightforward; they went wherever the spirit wanted to go, and they did not turn when they went.

We might try to imagine what these different creatures from Ezekiel’s description are doing or what they look like, but verses 9 and 12 give us significant insight.

V9:    The creatures did not turn when they went, but each one went  straightforward. 

 V12: And each one went straightforward; they went wherever the spirit  

wanted to go, and they did not turn when they went.

 God has given each of us many opportunities to move with Him. We all have the command to “go and make disciples”. The problems arise when circumstances bring doubt, discouragement, disappointment and the fear of defeat. Are we willing to go straightforward and not turn when the Spirit moves us to go?

The problem comes when our beliefs, understandings, fears and needs speak louder, as a result of our current situations, than the Spirit of the Lord’s voice.  As our lives change, these issues may not change.   When we experience something shocking, overwhelming, scary or challenging it can take some time to shift our focus.  It is in this moment of needing to shift that we often sit still.  Sitting still is not a problem. It is what we do in the times of stillness that can become problematic.  Fear, dread, panic, exaggeration, overreaction, depression, insecurity and uncertainty are just some of the emotions that can overpower good judgment and hinder our faith.

Good judgment becomes necessary to shift from the fear to faith. It is in this moment that we need to lift our eyes to see the eternal.

You are capable of determining what you believe, what you understand, what you are afraid of and what you need.  And you are certainly capable of doing that with careful consideration through the Scriptures, prayer and wise counsel.

You can go forward by the leading of the Spirit and choose to not turn your head to follow the distractions or false fears.

We speak from experience as Bobbye and I have been in ministry for over 10 years, and have experienced the vast range of situations, circumstances and emotions. It is never easy and the battles continue but we must move forward. We’ve been asked to host women’s conferences throughout the United States in 2014. Partnering with Salem Broadcasting, we will be holding evangelistic crusades in 19 cities, ranging from New York City to Houston to San Francisco. Have we been distracted, discouraged and downright depressed at times? Yes. However, we believe that God has called us to go straightforward and bring a message of hope, encouragement and faith to women, all over the world.

Through radio, television, webcasting, Internet and conferences, the message of the gospel will go to every nation and generation in the name of Jesus Christ. The task is big but the opportunity is now. We are asking for your prayer support and your financial support. Support from partners like you is making a difference and we thank you for your support throughout the years as well as now.

We ask that you prayerfully consider a donation or offering to Daily Disciples Ministries. We need your support to support others and to continue the mission of the ministry: to evangelize and to disciple, to encourage and empower, to teach and to train. It takes tremendous resources, finances, technology and ongoing support, but to God be the glory for great things He has done, through His people.

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And It Was Very Good…

3_Book_package_mediumIt is January 1, 2013 today. Deep within my spirit, I knew for the past few weeks that I would read Genesis 1 on this day. I found myself procrastinating because I take on that haughty attitude of asking myself, “Why do I have to read Genesis 1 again on January 1?” For the past 20+ years I have read Genesis 1 on January 1 and for a person who does not have traits of OCD, the thought of doing something ritualistically seems like a very good reason to NOT do it again. However, I knew I would read Genesis 1 because I also sensed the Lord prompting me to read it.

So the question became, “How can I read Genesis 1 in a different light or with a different twist?” There is a shelf in my bedroom which holds most of the Bibles I have read throughout the years.  Some of them are reading plan Bibles but all of them represent a different version, color, font size, commentary and thickness. A friend of mine asked to me during one of the Bible study classes if I change Bibles according to my outfit? The question caught me off guard but I thought it was a clever question considering how often I do try to match my belt with my shoes. If you have as many Bibles as belts, why not match them in a women’s Bible study group? No, this is not my intention in when teaching the Bible but I did appreciate her keen observation of my Bible preference for that week.

Any way, staring up at the Bibles on the shelf, I thought about my Joel Osteen devotional of the day. He actually wrote about Joyce and Dave Meyer and how they began their ministry. I have a purple Bible that is in the Amplified version from a Joyce Meyer conference. I pulled that one down and opened to Genesis 1.

WOW! God is so good… His mercy is new every morning and somehow, Genesis 1 becomes new every year. This is what I learned this time this year:

Genesis 1:4 “And God saw that the light was good (suitable, pleasant) and He approved it.”

Genesis 1:31 “And God saw everything that He had made and behold, it was very good (suitable, pleasant). And He approved it completely.”

God creates light and approved it but by the time He is done creating it all of creation, He approved it completely. I immediately thought of God telling us that He is faithful to complete what He has started in  us, His new creation in Christ. We are workmen called to be approved and faithful servants but He is God promising us that the work He is doing in our lives will be “good” or suitable and pleasant for His purposes.

Time to stop fighting the struggles, doubts and the things that cause us to be double minded and to start trusting Him. Time to rest in His sovereignty and praise the work of His hands, which includes us! He is a loving God who we can depend upon. It’s time for our lives to start reflecting His peace and yield to transformation through His love.

I guess re-reading Genesis 1 is like reminding myself of the book Building Divine Intimacy, prayer journaling and reading daily devotionals.  Some things we have to be reminded of and some things we need to learn in a completely new light and some things are just best for us if we repeat the action over and over again.

As He said, “it was very good.”

Christians and Technology

God is amazing and all knowing. I have always prayed that we could learn how to use the resources available to promote the Gospel and God’s Word. Several years ago, we founded Daily Disciples Ministries and began writing Bible studies. We had no idea what God would lead us to do using technology. We had no idea how to use the Internet and at that time, social media had not been born yet. But God led us to build a website, way back in 2003; then, put the Bible studies that we were teaching on that website as an mp3 file. We videotaped our Spiritual Warfare study in 2006, which are still being sold to this day. I remember the comments from those who thought we were a bit crazy….at that time, these types of things were not that prevalent in Christian activities and not many people seemed to care.

The biggest comment we received during our early technology ideas involved our decision to start writing “daily devotions” to post on our new website. We were told that we would not be able to keep writing them…that we would eventually stop…that it would never last. Well, that was about 8 years ago and over 400 devotions ago. The daily devotions have several thousand subscribers as well as are posted on Crosswalk.com and are passed around the world daily. This past week, we took technology to the next step in our ministry and launched our first App. We thought it was appropriate that it be for our daily devotions. The Daily Disciples Devotions App is available on the iTunes store and App store, one of a few that are actually an App.

God has given all of us the power to learn and to grow. Pray and ask for Him to show you things and how to use these latest technologies. Our voice for Christ needs to be out there in every place and the online world is growing with the voice of the world. Let’s do everything we can as Christians to use technology to spread the message of the Good News. From Apps to online video teachings to anything you can imagine. With God all things are possible.

Our latest Bible study currently going is on the Book of Exodus. We are teaching in person but are videotaping the sessions for anyone to join us, anywhere in the world. Check it out and join us. Visit our new online store at http://www.DailyDisciplesStore.com. Keep in touch and keep the faith!

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